At the airport in Philadelphia, a lady in her mid 20s asked if the kids were twins. I said no, Xander is 16 months and Sterling is 5 months (I didn't say their names). She said, "oh, did you adopt him?" I was surprised, no one has ever asked this. I said yes. Then she goes on to say "oh, his real mom must not have loved him" I got offended by that remark and let her know that his birth mom did love him. She loved him so much that he's here now. She loved him enough to carry and deliver him, think about his future, and give him the best life possible, even if it wasn't with her.
The lady just looked at me and didn't know what to say and walked away. I guess adoption is not known to all and some just don't know what to say or how to say it. I should probably prepare myself for future encounters. I don't know if I handled this situation correctly, but I feel I did okay.
Have you had any encounters? If so, how do you deal with them?
I wonder why she would even ask if he was adopted? I haven't ever had the "she must not have loved her" comment but if I did I think I would respond the same way you did. Some people are so ignorant.
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